Honesty that sparks connection
The other day I had a lazy day. Pajamas, warm coffee, a lineup of shows I actually wanted to watch. Nothing Instagram-worthy. Nothing productive.
And it was one of the best things I've done for myself since surgery.
I used to claim one weekend day a month just to lounge, rest, and do absolutely nothing with intention. But después de surgery, it started to feel strange. Like I couldn't justify it when all I'd been doing was sitting. Resting. Waiting for my body to catch up.
So I made a deal with myself: I'd have my lazy day, but I'd weave in my PT exercises and stretches in between episodes. Nothing rigid. Just enough to feel like me again.
🌻 Small Ways I've Been Showing Myself Love When It Hasn't Been Easy
Starting with the basics. Vitamins every morning. Water before coffee. Committing to my PT exercises even when I'd rather skip them. These aren't glamorous, but they're how I tell my body: I'm paying attention to you. In a hard season, showing up for the fundamentals is its own kind of love.
Choose rest intentionally. There's a difference between collapsing into rest because you have no choice and deciding to rest because your body is asking for it. After a full day of working from home, sometimes the last thing I want to do is sit back down — pero sometimes that's exactly what I need. The shift from "I have to rest" to "I'm choosing to rest" changes everything about how it feels.
Extend grace to the versions of you that look different right now. I'm a different dog mom right now. I can't pick them up or play with them the way I used to, and that has been a quiet grief I didn't expect. Self-love has meant giving myself permission to show up differently — not less, just differently — and trusting that this is a season, not a permanent state.
My lazy day wasn't revolutionary. But it was mine — something I did before, something that felt normal in a season that hasn't felt normal at all. If there's one thing I'd invite you to find for yourself, it's that. The small, familiar thing that connects you back to yourself. It doesn't have to be big. It just has to be yours.